Dear Future-self
I am writing this letter to give you a few pieces of advice which I
am hoping will gently guide you like a compass in this ship of life, which will
hopefully help clear your mind to give you a refreshed perspective, and which
will serve as a reminder of your purpose in this profession.
1) 1) Therapy does not come with an expiry date
Yes, clients pay for therapy. However, unlike other products we
purchase, the use of therapy is not limited to a “best before” date. The time
it takes for every individual to heal is as unique as the individual themselves.
By now I am sure that you may have experienced something like working with a
client for a couple weeks or MONTHS now, and you haven’t seen any real progress-
you have hit a plateau and you don’t know what to do. Here is a simple tip that
I feel can help overcome this plateau in therapy.
ZOOM OUT: It can be so easy to hyper-focus on higher-level skills during therapy such as eating/dressing and other fine motor skills, that you may often forget to “ZOOM OUT” to ensure that you are addressing the clients needs as holistically as possible. Question whether the client’s very basic needs are being met or not. By basic, I don’t mean the ADLs, but I am referring to Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs which you learned way back in the first year of university- needs like attachment, safety, and a positive self-image.
2) 2) Client satisfaction over traditional practices
Take a page out of the book of your role model in the OT field- Michelle D.- the Latina
Paediatric OT, based in Miami, Florida. Just like her, I know you wish to specialize
in pediatrics, have your own practice and run an OT entrepreneurship alongside.
Remember how she chose to let the child sleep during therapy instead of being
productive. She spent half the treatment session trying to motivate her friend
there to engage in play. However, it was his third therapy session of the day
and his mum reported that he was running on minimal sleep. Hence, she found it
safe to conclude that this child’s sensory system was on overdrive, leading him
to have a complete meltdown during the session, with inconsolable
crying and screaming. She recalled how as a fresh graduate she would have
continued to try and motivate the child to engage in an activity that he may
like so that they could “get something done”. However, her experience taught her,
that sometimes the BEST thing to “do”, is to take a step back and reflect on
what IS IT, that this child desperately needs. With this child, he was tired
from lack of sleep the night before and experiencing a high level of stress from
an overloaded sensory system. Hence, she knew it was time to switch gears. She
instinctively dimmed the lights, allowed him to climb up into her lap, and
proceeded to hug him tightly to provide some proprioceptive input to assist in
organizing his sensory system. She admitted that it took a couple minutes, but
he finally relaxed. Thereafter, he was able to calm himself enough to walk out
independently and greet his mother with a smile at the end of the session. Now, one may argue that the session was not as productive as others. However, by
bombarding his sensory system with more demands and sensory input, more harm
would be caused than good as his stress levels would be increased. Instead, she
was able to provide the child an opportunity to feel safe and regulate himself
when he was feeling most vulnerable. SO, you hardworking and intelligent OT,
remember that therapy is not always a linear process- and that is OKAY! Remember
to acknowledge and celebrate your little victories and milestones along the way-
indeed they are the most meaningful accomplishments.
https://www.instagram.com/michelled_ot/?hl=en- Take some time out to scroll through her Instagram feed to learn and see what she ahs been up to.
3) 4) “It’s not how we make mistakes but how we
correct them that defines us”- Sonu Singh
The mantra of every OT student was to look at clients HOLISTICALLY- fair enough. However, what about YOU? Who besides yourself will ever consider you holistically hey? Not always are people lucky to have empathetic superiors. Hence it is vital to prioritize yourself, take care of yourself, and establish good energy, mindset, and health for yourself so that you can go out and provide the best possible healthcare to other individuals.
You are not alone if you feel:
- grateful for a client cancellation to catch a breath in between client appointments
- overwhelmed with balancing your career, relationships, finances, and family life.
- impostor syndrome and are constantly questioning if you are providing the best care.
It is not only you. There are many who experience similar situations and
emotions when navigating life as a healthcare practitioner. Especially when thinking
about the realities that you experience every day: unrealistic productivity
standards, massive student loan debt, complex caseloads, and the emotional
burden that one experiences when working so closely with individuals.
Honey…I want you to validate these feelings and if need be, seek
help from a trusted mentor/community, because when ignored, they can build up
to bigger issues like chronic fatigue, anxiety, and depression. This world can
be very fast-paced and unforgiving. All this is to say, please take care of YOU
friend. After all, there is ONLY ONE you, and the world is blessed to have you
in it 🌍💕
4) 3) "Positivity" is the lifeboat in this sea of life
You have always been an optimistic individual as far as I believe.
As much as I pray this trait never dims, you do not have control over the
trials and tribulations of your existence in this world. However, what you CAN
control is how you respond to it.
Bark if you
need to. Step away to be alone (and this isn’t avoidance, by the way). Shake
your fist at the sky. But DO NOT obsess, swim, or dance in this negativity forever
or what feels like forever. It is always easier said than done but find the
silver lining. Accumulate wisdom from your error. Accept. Adapt. Be fair to
yourself. Be kind to yourself. See the world as perfectly imperfect and don't
let it overwhelm you. When meeting a new individual, try and find at least one positive attribute.
Instead of assessing and looking at them as problem lists, try and search for
the best in them and nurture that goodness. They may not be you, someone you
know, or someone you may hang out with for a lifetime, but they still deserve
your respect, genuine interest, and a chance to show their best selves. Thrive
on the highlights of the week, those little, valuable moments.
Lastly, whenever you are having a hard time, remember what your Lord has said: "There is no person who visits the sick but 70000 angels send blessings upon him".
Here to support, inspire and mOTivate
~Your 2021 self
~Shakeelah🎀
Thank you so much shakeelah! Very wise words! Hold onto this!! I especially like the reminder about looking for the positive attributes in a client first!
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